Frusteration

[Ragnar Ordo]

My girlfriend broke up with me six times ,and its so frustrating. I just cant get her out of my head it sucks what the hell do I do? How can someone forget ...... I know this is a role play forum but it would be nice to have someone give advice. How the heck do you make things work? How ?

 

[Fatty]

First, I'm going to tell you to take my words with a grain of salt or pretty much don't listen to me at all because I myself am a bit of a relationship newb.

Now my advice:

If it didn't work the first time, it won't work a second, third, fourth, or fifth time, as you have yourself seen. That should be a red flag to you, that this person is not committed and flip flops on what her feelings mean. Now of course, in some instances going out with a girl a second time might be okay, perhaps your first relationship ended on circumstances not necessarily ordinary. But if it breaks down again and again, and you keep trying to rebuild it you will only exhaust yourself, and you break each other down in the process. You need to find someone who cares enough for you that they will fight with you to sort out the source of the problem, so you don't have to fight any more, and continue the relationship. If the you can't sort it out... then well, it was not meant to be, so don't try to make it out like it was.

If I offended you at all, please let me know, it was not meant. The conversation though is touchy as it is, so again remember that I'm trying to help you.

 

[Antoir Setrrin]

First, I'm going to tell you to take my words with a grain of salt or pretty much don't listen to me at all because I myself am a bit of a relationship newb.

Now my advice:

If it didn't work the first time, it won't work a second, third, fourth, or fifth time, as you have yourself seen. That should be a red flag to you, that this person is not committed and flip flops on what her feelings mean. Now of course, in some instances going out with a girl a second time might be okay, perhaps your first relationship ended on circumstances not necessarily ordinary. But if it breaks down again and again, and you keep trying to rebuild it you will only exhaust yourself, and you break each other down in the process. You need to find someone who cares enough for you that they will fight with you to sort out the source of the problem, so you don't have to fight any more, and continue the relationship. If the you can't sort it out... then well, it was not meant to be, so don't try to make it out like it was.

If I offended you at all, please let me know, it was not meant. The conversation though is touchy as it is, so again remember that I'm trying to help you.

Basically what he said. Some relationships just don't work out. If someone repeatedly breaks up with you, then says they want to try again, only to break up with you again... It ain't a good sign. Now I don't know much about the situation, but I think it would be best to just stay as friends, or stop seeing them altogether (depending on circumstance and how good of friends you guys were before it turned into a relationship). Relationships with people like that usually only go south. Sure, if you turn her down, she might be upset. But at the end of the day you have to look out for yourself.

Now, if you really, really like her, and really want to try to work it out, talk to her. Girls aren't as insanely complicated as most people think. Most of the time we say what we mean. When we don't, it's usually because we're trying to prevent someone from getting hurt. But, of course, not all women are the same. You have to keep that in mind. Just talk to her. Ask her if there's something that's been making her change her mind so much. See if there's something you could do different. Now, I ain't saying ya should change a bunch just to please a woman. That isn't a good thing to do. There is someone out there that will take you as you are. But if the changes she wants you to make (if she wants you to change) are ones that will make you a better person, then it's worth a shot.

Just try to remember that not all relationships are meant to be. It's okay to lose someone every once in awhile. And hey, you don't have to have a girlfriend to be happy. Hope things work out for ya bud.

 

[Nyxie]

My girlfriend broke up with me six times ,and its so frustrating. I just cant get her out of my head it sucks what the hell do I do? How can someone forget ...... I know this is a role play forum but it would be nice to have someone give advice. How the heck do you make things work? How ?

As someone whose entire life balance was distorted in the long term, and life's dream forfeit over such a thing, allow me to say this.
I had the same problem once. Five times over some two or three years with huge gaps in-between. Turns out she became manic depressive for whatever related and unrelated reasons, and that rubbed off on me really badly. Long story short, I spent most of my time worrying about her, even though she clearly didn't care enough to stay, or perhaps truly needed not to. I had roughly 80% of my school year absent and was expelled for my best friend hanging out in the library during class (we had the newest like 22" iMacs with dual OS. It was dope). All I did was leave the school with him, and yeah. Guilt by association. Now, instead of being in USAF ROTC with my flawless, studyless grades, I'm here... at home... on the laptop, roleplaying and watching astrophysics and engineering videos on YouTube. Don't be me. If you fall down a step, that's twice as many steps to get back up to pace, metaphorically speaking.

Do things that preoccupy your time and distract you. For me, it's playing GTA Online, as the people there annoy the living poodoo out of me so much that I completely forget everything else I was previously upset about in exchange for gamerage and revenge. xD
If she truly cares, she'll come around. If not, maybe that's just not the best thing for her... or for you. Best to cut the losses and move forward, just don't trip over yourself trying to sway her back. It's a self-perpetuating waste of energy that leaves you clinging and empty.

Probably horrible advice, but that's just my take, from experience, lol. - [member="Ragnar Ordo"]

PS: There are PLEEEENTY of other girls. Especially if you're 21 or younger. They come and go. Don't drive yourself insane.

 

[Allyson Locke]

Be mad, be upset. It's human. Don't linger move on it takes time trust me. Girls suck.

 

[Nyxie]

Girls aren't as insanely complicated as most people think.

Girls are like quantum physics. They're only a certain way the moment you observe them. >_>

 

[Antoir Setrrin]

[member="Cuu'rha"]
No two people are the same. The main problem a lot of people make is that they assume all women must follow a certain set of rules. That works biologically, not mentally. Why do you think I'm the crazy tomboy lesbian while my best friend is the hyperactive ever-optimistic cheerleader? All girls are different. We all work differently. If a guy calls me 'babe', I want to punch him. If a guy calls a friend of mine 'babe', she swoons.
There's no secret combo move to get someone to like you. Different people like and dislike different things.
The trick is to not look at women as a group. It's to look at the person you like, and realize that they have their own unique personality. Go from there.

Girls suck.

[member="Spencer Jacobs"]
Don't let you-know-who hear you say that

 

[Nyxie]

[member="Ven'Rain Sekairo"]
Ah. You don't get it?
You don't get it....

Spoiler

In quantum physics, there is a theory suggesting that electrons are only in a static form when observed, otherwise they are subject to what's called a Probability Wave. This means that where they are can only be assumed by odds until the moment of observation, while the act of observing allows the observer to see their probable location and state at that moment.

I was making a really nerdy, subliminal joke about how girls are flaky except for the moment you notice them.

 

[Antoir Setrrin]

[member="Ashe the Reaper"]
Any assumptions about the actions of women as a whole is childish and not recommended.
I find your humor disappointing.

 

[Sarge Potteiger]

My girlfriend broke up with me six times

There's your first mistake. I'm all for giving people a second chance, but [member="Tefka"] knows what happens when you give someone six chances.

 

[Ragnar Ordo]

thank you for the advice I will look back at this from time to time for different relationships

 

[Saera Willamina Savan]

[member="Ashe the Reaper"]
Any assumptions about the actions of women as a whole is childish and not recommended.
I find your humor disappointing.

It wasn't an assumption, it was a joke.

 

[Antoir Setrrin]

[member="Særa Ayña Savan"]
A joke based off an assumption. The fact that it was built around an assumption was the disappointing part that made it so it wasn't funny.
*shrugs*

 

[Jsc]

Advice by Age:

• < 16: Aww, that's cute. You'll do just fine. Chin up.
• 16 - 21: Girls are weird. Give it time. You'll met the right one.
• 21 - 26: Six times is too many chances. Try taking a week off and then dating someone else.
• 26 - 40: Be strong and let her suffer. Eventually she'll come back to you. They always do.
• 40 +: She just wants more money. Decide whether to pay her more while you're dating and always demand a pre-nup when she asked for marriage.

 

[Saera Willamina Savan]

[member="Særa Ayña Savan"]
A joke based off an assumption. The fact that it was built around an assumption was the disappointing part that made it so it wasn't funny.
*shrugs*

A joke based on a joke, because that's all it was. The only one assuming anything is you.

 

[Jsc]

[member="Ven'Rain Sekairo"] [member="Særa Ayña Savan"]

Lol. You two are very catty writers. I've watched both of you for only a few days now and I must say: I luv u both. Never change.

*eats popcorn* <3

 

[Antoir Setrrin]

[member="Sam Jhovna"]
Dun know about Ashe, but I know I am

Literally

[member="Særa Ayña Savan"]
I'm not really assuming anything. I'm just saying I don't find your joke to be true or funny.
*shrugs*
Not saying you're a bad person or that you assume things. Just that your joke is... partially in poor taste, depending who you ask.
Nothing very bad, really. Could be a lot worse.
Now, since apparently we are cats
Meow