Yeah, I really dislike the pigeonholing of criticism.
Rey simply suffers from a modern issue with writing women. A consistent problem with a lot of female leads at the moment is they lack weakness because I imagine the writers are worried that weakness might be mistaken as female weakness. They don't want to show her as bad at fighting, in case it's taken as she's bad because she is a woman. Funny enough the being able to kick ass I don't mind, she's a scavenger who has to fight for the best loot for a living. The flying was something they REALLY needed to explain or you know... just make Daemon Poe the pilot.
Han Solo dying, I liked it but reality is it only happened because Harrison Ford just wanted the damn character to die already. I kind of agree that the character just didn't have much purpose after the first movie, other than being really cool.
Kylo Ren would be a better villain but in the second movie, Snoke kicked his ass in the film easily and then Ren only kills Snoke by tricking him. You replaced the MAIN VILLAIN with a less threatening one, one which has been proven to be less powerful.
He is also less threatening because he constantly gets beaten. Darth Vader was a threat because when he showed up, he kicked ass. He was never defeated in a lightsaber fight until RotJ and that upped the stakes. In the third movie where Rey at that stage will be far more trained in the force, is it going to feel amazing seeing her beat Kylo Ren for the third time?
I have warmed to what they tried to do with Luke Skywalker, I just think at the same time it was pulled off poorly. There is a deleted scene in TLJ where after Luke tells Rey to leave, he goes into his hut and has a moment where he's visibly shaken at the news of Han Solo passing away. It adds to the hurt and the guilt that he feels over so much that's happened BUT they deleted that and made sure we had that scene where he's getting milk from that creature. Even Mark Hamil admitted that it was ridiculous they left it out. Taking away those moments means to harder to connect Luke Skywalker in that movie from his previous appearances.
I really wanted a Luke Skywalker who was more active in trying to make amends but I feel like I would of been more open to what I received if it was executed in a way that made it easier to get into where his mind was at. They have deleted scenes where he tries to explain the ideological problems he's found with being Jedi but they got deleted because we needed those little comedy scenes to keep the movie light-hearted.
"Star Wars movies are not all that serious" True... but they were trying to be serious. that's the fundamental problem.
But then blame J.J. Abrams for setting up all this crap but explaining it to nobody, because when the movie came around the Rian Johnson admitted that he didn't know... why Luke Skywalker... would be on that island doing NOTHING. That's a pretty big thing to not go into don't you think?
It also shows the main issue the movies are having with consistency. If a main plot point isn't passed on from one writer to another, you're practically playing that game in English class where you take turn writing paragraphs for a story.