I agree that we still need to find that sweet spot of rules and flexibility but you must understand that if a rule apply's to everyone else, it should still apply to the newbies.
Also, things have changed since the beginning of time. Things that were okay then, are no longer so now for particular reasons in that, some of those things simply do not help a community survive.
Such as a long time ago in a galaxy far away it was okay to start out as a Master as long as it was an alt and not your first character. That ship has left the harbour, and for good reason. If master was available to everyone at any time, no one would ever think to start out as an Apprentice, and they would power play the hell out of the site.
That isn't good for community. I would like to see a softer tone however, sometimes you guys can be a bit rough, but everyone has there days.