When writing, just as Blade Ice stated, sometimes the best way to not only grow as a writer, but also a person is to throw caution to the wind and put yourself in the shoes of someone else. This can make one feel uncomfortable, awkward, or even well out-of their depth trying to understand what someone might feel or go through.
I've done this with several characters of my own. While mone have been exclusively transgender, I have taken steps into the LGBTQIA+ direction with some. My own life experiences limit me in some scope of this but I would rather open that door than let it remain shut and be ignorant of what I can understand or empathize with.
Sasmay is my first character here on the board, and while I didn't initially plan on her even being remotely interested in anyone, rp brought about the character growing affection for another (looking at you
Domino
and
Bella
for the party thread) during a thread and some ic personal exploration. And this growth of her character I welcomed because it allowed me to explore different ideas of what affection and caring for someone else could be.
I strive to never in my head assign the characters I write with strict conforming ideas of their preferences unless the muse gives me strong inclinations of preference. 9/10 times I allow the character to develop before my eyes with rp and do little more than take a backseat and watch the idea grow to its own design.
This has allowed me to expand my understanding of others through this type of backseat exploration of my own characters. Things I don't usually think of forming before my eyes and paired with input from others, whether intentional or not, have done wonders for my free rein style of character writing. This has also helped with my understanding of how others not only interact but also form connections be it friendly, hostile, or other.
I am not a great writer by any means, falling somewhere between not bad and look at this sith-poster. But I enjoy seeing characters grow and develop through their struggles and trails through life whether of their own making or put upon them. That being said, I have limited experience in my own life with troubles.
It hasn't been without its own ups and downs, but nothing near the scope of some of the struggles I have heard and seen from the community we are speaking about along with others. And while I can do little more than offer my own support and words for those affected by such things, it warms my little shriveled heart to see a community like this where everyone is cared for and appreciated for who they are as people.