Tirin sat across from Jin at the breakfast table, his demeanor calm and collected as always. He meticulously arranged his utensils.
"In the context of Jedi and their practices," Tirin began, his voice measured and thoughtful
, "an attachment generally refers to an emotional connection or bond with a person, place, or thing that can create strong feelings, potentially leading to fear, anger, or jealousy. The Jedi Order traditionally teaches that such attachments should be avoided or managed, as they can cloud judgment and lead to the dark side. This is why Jedi strive for a state of detachment, focusing on compassion and selflessness without forming possessive or overly emotional ties."
He paused briefly before continuing,
"However, this philosophy is nuanced and varies among different Jedi. Some believe that certain attachments, when handled with wisdom and balance, can be sources of strength and motivation. I believe there is nothing inherently wrong with attachments. Problems arise when we become possessive and allow these bonds to generate negative emotions. With restraint, moderation, and thoughtful consideration, attachments can be managed in a healthy and constructive way."
He trailed off, considering this.
"We are encouraged to show compassion and love, to care deeply for others. It's the possessiveness and fear of loss that we must guard against."
Tirin sat back and considered what Jin had said, trying to understand it from his point of view. After a moment of reflection, he spoke.
"I think I understand the notion that making friends can be challenging," Tirin began thoughtfully.
"It's not always easy to connect with others, especially when we're cautious about forming attachments. But there are ways to bridge that gap."
He leaned forward slightly, his demeanor still calm.
"First, be honest and considerate. People appreciate sincerity and kindness. Offer genuine compliments when you recognize something admirable in someone. Let them know you appreciate their qualities. It can be as simple as acknowledging their skill, their kindness, or their dedication."
Tirin paused, ensuring Jin was following before continuing.
"Don't be shy about introducing yourself. A simple, 'Hello, my name is Jin,' can open many doors. When you meet someone you'd like to befriend, ask if they'd like to spend time together, perhaps train or share a meal. It doesn't have to be complicated."
He smiled slightly, a rare gesture for him.
"Be dependable. Show them that you are someone they can count on. Being reliable and trustworthy goes a long way in forming strong bonds. If you say you'll be somewhere or do something, follow through. Consistency builds trust."
Tirin continued,
"Confidence is also crucial. Believe in your worth and the value you bring to a friendship. When you approach others with self-assurance, they are more likely to respond positively. This doesn't mean arrogance, but rather a quiet confidence that comes from knowing yourself and your abilities."
He paused again, thinking.
"Setting boundaries is equally important. Healthy friendships are built on mutual respect, which includes respecting each other's limits. Don't be afraid to assert your boundaries and respect the boundaries of others. This ensures that the relationship remains balanced and respectful."
Tirin concluded with a thoughtful look.
" Be patient and give it time. Friendships, like any meaningful connection, grow and deepen with time and effort."
