Just as an FYI for the people of Chaos when it comes to PG-13: it is a highly subjective system used in and born from Hollywood politics. If you want to get down to the nit-and-gritty of it, that is what it is. It is born from what people believe to be appropriate enough for display to children, because otherwise, people will be sued by overly concerned parents, who probably brought their kids to the movie in the first place. I'm not saying this is what people meant it to become, because originally, it was done with good intentions. After years and years of movie making, the focus has shifted towards wanting a rating of PG-13 to acquire a larger audience, still keep a large amount of adult content, but get as much money out of it as possible.
It's very sad, honestly.
With what [member="Celiana"] has mentioned, I think it's a fantastic step in the right direction of us, as writers, talking about the things that make us uncomfortable. I have several friends who are Alcoholics (if anyone is familiar with AA), former drug addicts, currently battling schizophrenia (both aware and unaware of their condition), and one very dear man who has impulses of manslaughter and fights it every day by drinking. I personally have gone through psychological abuse, making it very difficult getting close to people; yet I know several troubled people, so how that works, I don't know. I think troubled individuals gravitate toward each other for help and guidance, if that can be one explanation.
My point is, however, that while I have mentioned all of these real life concerns, I have not broken any rules in regards to a PG-13 rating. I do not describe the visual image of what happens. With this distinction, it becomes very hard to draw the lines between what is PG-13 and R when we, as a community, need to be able to talk about these subjects. Pornography is precise; we all know what it is. Drug use is not precise. It is not clear cut. Alcohol is even worse, because there's a difference between the occasional drink, to drinking every day. Side effects: I won't go there. Not for this thread anyway.
In regards to writing with other individuals, I have to make something very clear: communication, both with the person and with their character. I don't know what happened with the other person, Celiana, but I feel that you did the right thing by asking and posting this thread. The other person, for whatever reason, up and didn't reply back. This isn't a failing, I feel, on your part. You did what you could, and thus we're here now =)
I hope this is enlightening.